Reflections on Friendship Connections
Over the years, I’ve been fortunate to develop several circles of friends, each unique in its traits and deeply meaningful in its connection with me. Among these, there are distinct groups that stand out for the profound roles they play in my life.
First and foremost, there’s the Gang. This close-knit group of seven—Jesse and me included—has become an irreplaceable part of my life. Over the years, we’ve evolved from friends to family, traveling together, celebrating milestones, and standing by one another through life’s highs and lows. When the world slowed during the COVID-19 pandemic, our bond grew even stronger, weathering the isolation together and, humorously, even contracting COVID as a group. To this day, we find joy in simply being together—whether it’s a weekend hangout or a casual evening at someone’s home, the laughter and camaraderie we share are unmatched.
Then there’s my Inner Circle. These are my closest confidants, the ones I turn to for sage advice and unwavering support. Each of these men brings something unique to the table—be it wisdom, shared interests, or a proven track record of loyalty. They are the friends I can rely on without hesitation, and I strive to be the same for them. Our connection is built on trust, mutual respect, and the understanding that we’re in each other’s corners, no matter what.
Finally, there’s a broader network of friends tied together by shared interests or experiences. This includes my brothers and sisters in the Canadian Forces, my companions in the heraldic community, and those I’ve collaborated with in various organizations. These friendships are characterized by their resilience—time and distance don’t weaken our bonds. Especially among my CAF colleagues, it’s a remarkable dynamic. We may go months or years without seeing each other, but when we reconnect, it’s as if no time has passed.
I’ve come to deeply value the time spent with friends and cherish the connections that bring us together and keep us bonded. Each group, each person, plays a vital role in shaping my life. Some relationships require more effort to nurture, while others thrive effortlessly, but all are equally meaningful.
Reflecting on these connections, I recognize the importance of a two-way street in friendship. As I grow older, I gravitate toward relationships where effort flows in both directions. Life is short, and I want to invest my energy in those who care as much as I do. This isn’t to say I’ve intentionally pushed anyone away, but there comes a point where I can’t always be the one initiating contact or keeping the bond alive. For some, their chapter in my life may have been brief but significant, and that’s okay.
Deepening connections with close friends requires intentionality. It’s about showing up—whether it’s a simple text, a shared moment, or being available when it matters most, even if it’s 4 a.m. Friendship isn’t measured by grand gestures but by the consistent presence and support we offer each other.
As Samuel Taylor Coleridge said, “Friendship is a sheltering tree.” This quote resonates deeply with me. A sheltering tree provides shade, protection, and comfort, much like a true friend offers support during life’s storms and a place of rest in its calm moments. Our friendships form a canopy under which we can grow and thrive, shielded from life’s harsher elements.
Another quote that comes to mind is from C.S. Lewis: “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’” This perfectly encapsulates the magic of connection—the shared understanding and mutual recognition that create bonds deeper than mere acquaintance.
As I reflect on my friendships, I’m reminded that their value lies not only in the joy they bring but in the lessons they teach about loyalty, resilience, and love. To each of those close friends, you know who you are and no words need to be spoken about how much we support each other thought lives journey. Thank you for always being there for laughs, cries, and everything in between. Whether it’s celebrating life’s victories, weathering its challenges, or simply sharing a quiet moment of understanding, your presence has been a constant source of strength and inspiration. Here’s to the bond we share and the countless memories still to come.
Verbum Ultimum: True friendship isn’t about finding people to live with; it’s about finding those you can’t live without. Friendship is the quiet foundation beneath life’s louder moments. It’s the steady hand that pulls us through trials and the laughter that reminds us of life’s beauty. To those who’ve stood by me, I offer my gratitude and my commitment to stand by you in return.
Until next we meet, with ink as my witness and virtue as my guide.
JCB
